Has Social Media made us Socially awkward?

So you plan on meeting a friend at a coffee shop after a long time today. Are you worried about what you will wear? Nah! The following points are the main reason which is causing you to jump around in distress.

1. Which coffee shop do I met him at?

    a. Starbucks is too overrated, almost 10 of my friends checked in there in the past 1 week.

    b. Cafe Coffee Day?... erm.. Nah! Sounds cheap

    c. Let me look up a vintage old coffee shop... After half an hour of Googling... 'French Cafe' has been finalized.

2. Since I am meeting my friend after a long time. I shoud... No... I Must do a status update. After thinking and editing the post for an hour, a super senti post is all set to go live.

3. After posting the update, you take max 10 minutes to decide what you wear, the only time which you spend is in making sure your face looks fine ( Of course you have to click a Selfie)

4. So you are about to reach the coffee shop and you are getting all yaaay!! Happy types.. Not because you are meeting a friend, but mostly because you will check in a cool place after a long time >In you face Facebook and Foursqaure friend list<

5. After few hugs and kisses are exchanged you start talking about random stuff... After about 5 minutes, you feel as if an hour has gone by and you both are already out of ideas to talk about.

6. When we are bored and have nothing else to do... What do we do?...Take a Selfie (Selfie music playing in you're head and you're pouting like a super star!)

7. After about 5 selfies (if you are a guy) or about 250 selfies (If you are a girl), you decide to order some food.

8. Whaaat? Food you say? Well, we all know what that calls for... INSTAGRAM.. No matter how much you are starving, you've gotsa take a picture of your food and Instagram it. 

> In your face Instagram/ Facebook/ Twitter friends<

9. After a long day and exploiting almost every social medium, you say goodbye to your friend, only to come back home to write an even more sentimental status update about how fun it was to hang out with your friend after a long time.

Disgraceful, I say disgraceful.

Well, i'm no saint here, i follow the same steps, maybe a few more, when i go meet a friend.

What's wrong with us, why is it so easy to express ourselves on Facebook than on somebody's face. Why is it so easy to make small talks on Twitter than with people. 

Duh! Who cares, we are what we are and we should accept it. We are social addicts and we will always be. We might not be cool outside but we have a totally rocking social life on Facebook/Twitter/ Instagram and many more. :)

Cheers to all of us.

Winning - The journey

Winning is the best feeling one can ever get in their life. Winning is something which cannot be taken away from you if you work hard, you will get face to face with it one day. For me, winning is just a step to achieve my dreams and to achieve those dreams not only winning, but the journey is as important for me.

There is no scientific code to win. Anyone can win if they work hard. For me, winning is important, but not as important as the journey you take and the obstacles you face while you're working towards it, because the path to winning teaches us a lot more than winning itself.

We don’t achieve strength by winning, our strength is developed by our struggles, the more we struggle the more sweeter is the taste of winning. No matter how far you reach or how much winnings you have registered in your account. At some point, you are bound to stumble. If you’re constantly pushing yourself higher and higher, the law of averages predicts that you will at some point fall. And that fall my friend is – Failure.

When failure strikes, a lot of us give up, I have too, many times, but you win the race partially when you brush yourself up and get back on track. We learn from every mistake and every experience, particularly our mistakes, as they teach us and force us into being more ‘Ourselves’.

Winning is not only getting a trophy or topping your school results or getting a promotion. Winning is so much better when it lifts everyone around you, when it illuminates the light of your success on others and show them the right direction and path to walk on. Great are those men who win not only to win, but to lay the right path for others. Such are the speakers who will be there to guide us at India Today Conclave 2014, get more details here: http://www.indiatodayconclave.com

Arun Shourie won when he enlightened us with his great knowledge, Arvind Kejriwal won when he sparked the fire among the Indians to fight for what is right. Kalki Koechlin won when she gave us great unconventional cinema to satisfy our creative minds. Every one of them won because they opened a new path or direction for us to follow. And that’s what winning does, it creates a brighter future and a better world as it has more wiser people to illuminate their light upon it.

Ending on what one of my favorite movies taught me. “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. Us playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. It's not just in some of us; it is in everyone. And as we let our own lights shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

Ignorance is bliss!

One thing which I have learned till now is that Ignorance is definitely a bliss.
You keep on ignoring the things that bother you and hope for them to stop on its own. But there comes a time when a voice in your head screams until you stand up for what is right. I have had that voice screaming in my head for a very long time now, but I was in a constant phase of ignorance and learnt to live with it.

No matter how prominent that voice got, I tried to curb its existence by involving myself in something which would ease me. Singing my favourite tune, creating some art or just talking to my best friend.

But the question is, for how long?

For how long can we stop that voice or can we ask it to shut up!

Well, for me, it wasn’t too long when I lost it and suddenly that voice which almost made me hit my head through the wall came alive and I just could not keep it together.

Most of us think that keeping something inside, which you think is not right is the hardest thing and the gravest feeling you can have. But for me the worst feeling came when I spoke up and stood up for what was  right in my head.

A feeling of relief which I had not felt in a long time was felt. But to my surprise it wasn’t for too long.

This made me wonder, why don’t I feel great anymore? Why don’t I feel like I did the right thing? I tried hard, to think of good things so that I could feel great again.

After a while of brainstorming and self analysis I asked myself that on what basis do we decide what is wrong or right? On what basis do we judge someone? And on what basis do we decide to expose a person’s doing to the world and expecting them to stand against it too.

After thinking a lot about these things, I still could not find any answers to it. All is can say is that we are in no position to judge anyone. Maybe in our eyes he has sinned. But for others he might be a saint. Who are we to question any one's integrity?

I don’t know if I am wrong or I am right. I'm not sure if I chose to do the right things. All I know is that maybe ignorance would have been a bliss, after all.

City Lights

I like the lights, the city lights
I like the fact that they resemble the sky.

I like the crowd, the city crowd.
I like the fact that it makes me proud and remember where I came from.

Cause I know I love my town,
And I know no one can take that away from me.
But I like the smell, the city smell.
I like the fact that after a long day, I can see the trees sway now and then.

The bright lights might make people think twice,
But how can I be, what I dream to be, without the city lights.

But that don't mean, I don't miss home.
It's just that I have one more town, to call my own.

If I had dared

If I had dared to say what I really think,
Things would have been different.
If I had dared to do what I thought,
Things could have been better.

I dared not once, but twice.
But was succumbed by my fears.
For everyone who was watching
Thought I was the one whose head was not clear.

I know things could have been different if I had dared.
But with no one by my side I felt scared.

No one ever understood me,
No one knew how to love me.
And when someone did,
I tried to run away from it.

I guess, after all, I never wanted to be daring,
All I wanted, was someone who was caring.

I would have never found you,
If i would have dared.
Things in life do work out
Just believe in your Prayers.

Amen!

Moving

So I guess Everyone have had their moving experiences.... But everyone has their experience like once a year, unlike me, who have had this experience five times in six months. Sounds weird huh... But I guess I like to live this way. A place cannot hold me for too long. Sometimes its the view, sometimes its the space but sometimes it's just me. Nothing has ever affected me in any way, but moving so much has made me realise one thing for sure, that I am not as cold hearted as I thought I was, in fact I am not at all cold hearted.
Moving is easy when you do it once a while, but being a pro in this I can confidently say that it is not. When you move in a place you just don't move with all your stuff, you bring along the baggage too. No matter how strong or independent you think you are, memories are something which are created every single second, and when you move out of a place, that is the only thing you take with you.

When we find a place to move in we put all our heart and soul in it because we know that, that place is going to be our home for whatever time we plan on staying there. No matter how bad your day is, you know there will be one place where you won't be judged, and that is home. So many times I thought that what is all the fuss about moving? But I guess there is no fuss, after all. We are just afraid to let go of the time we have spent in that place. Be it good or bad, it is what we have created in that place and when you move you are not just leaving the place you leave everything behind. Except for memories.

The worst part of moving doesn't show up until you have packed all your stuff and are ready to start a new life in a new place. Seeing an empty apartment makes you think about all the memories and all the good times you will be taking away from that place. Where you hung your favorite clock or your favorite picture from your mom will just be empty now, the floor which was mostly used for throwing, practically everything in your hand once you came back home from work, will be much cleaner and tidier than it used to be. But the best part is that we might be moving but the apartment will not be empty for long. Maybe it will be a home for a new family and unlike our clothes and bags on the floor it will be cluttered with toys. The walls will be bright and colorful with baby pictures. Maybe it will be a bachelor pad with posters of Megan fox on the walls and beer bottles on the floor. Whatever it will be, or whoever will move in, the place will never stop creating memories.
As for me I will be creating new memories of my own, in a different place, waiting for a new chapter . But no matter what people say I surely have learnt one thing.

It is easy to move, but very difficult to move on.

I wish I was cold as stone

When the rain falls I feel every bit of it,

When the night star shining over my head I feel something inside..

I wish I could just not feel anything inside..

I wish I had a stone as my heart

Then no one could have hurt me..

You could never bring me down or tell me im not good enough

I wish I had a stone for a heart so I could not feel no pain..

I would have let you go by now

Because I know you don’t feel the way you do which you did before…

I wish I had… stone for a heart.

I wish I could not feel anything  by being apart.

I wish I had stone for a heart,  As I could let go of everything in the past and move on!